It snowed last night – the first real snow of the winter with six or seven inches of the frozen white stuff on the ground; I laughed out loud when local friends posted photos on Facebook showing completely bare shelves where bread was once stacked – ditto for milk. Newsflash people: we live in the Midwest – it snows here – and six inches of snow is not the apocalypse. Lordy.

It’s beautiful when snow is fresh and new and I’m standing in my warm house gazing from the window; a million brilliant white frozen crystals bounce sunlight back onto the snow-covered plants, casting long dark shadows across the ground. Brown-leafed hydrangea stems now wear white pointed top hats; our koi huddle around the pond heater which keeps a 10-inch circle of water liquid while the rest of the pond is frozen and piled high with soft white flakes.



It’s January – the month of new starts, diets, cleanses, resolutions, goals and new beginnings; I’m resolving to stay away from the diets and cleanses choosing instead to continue my quest to listen to my body and eat as well as I can; resolving to not beat myself up in those moments I fail – and instead, to spend my energy focused on living as balanced a life as I can. For me, it’s not so much as what I’m ‘against’ as much as it is about what I’m ‘for’ – more positive, less negative and that includes being kind to myself.

I’m a big, big fan of Anne Lamott and I happened to catch one of her posts on Facebook last week; so much of what she writes speaks to me but this post in particular, hit a bullseye and I found myself saying, ‘Yes, yes and yes’ – it’s really worth reading the entire post but I’ll share some of it here:

‘ . . . as I’ve said before, getting on a scale is like asking Dick Cheney to give you a sense of your own self-worth every morning.

I can still get my jeans on, for one reason: I wear forgiving pants. The world is too hard as it is, without letting your pants have an opinion on how you are doing. I struggle with enough esteem issues without letting my jeans get in on the act, volunteering random thoughts about my butt.’ ~Anne Lamott

I too, can still get my jeans on and I am indeed, sitting here in my very forgiving yoga pants, hair not yet combed this morning, sans any trace of makeup on my face, sipping my daily espresso and debating whether or not to remove the Christmas cards from my fireplace mantel; I may even put away the snowglobe sitting on an end table. That was the extent of our Christmas ‘decorations’ this year – I think we may have overdone the decorations (she says tongue-in-cheek).

The Professor and I have spent these last weeks sleeping late, enjoying leisurely brunches and watching copious amounts of television (something we don’t do during most of the year); our niece gave us one of her pieces of artwork for Christmas – a piece that I’ve admired for several years during our many visits to Cincinnati. It’s been framed and hung on the wall in our dining room – which then lead to repainting the walls and adding two new cabinets – see how one idea leads to another? I still have trim to finish and a few other touches but once it’s completed, I’ll share more photos.

All of the meandering in this post leads me to this: I’m learning to move at a little slower pace, to be aware of the light around me, to create – not only in my food, but in my writing, my photography and the space we live in – it feeds me, it restores me and my soul is happy and content – even with six inches of snow on the ground.


We wish you well in this new year; we encourage you to be kind to yourself, be kind to others, take the high-road whenever you have that opportunity and remember: we’re all in this together.



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  2. Kim Honeycutt

    We use to have a Shoney’s Restaurant that had a Cabbage Beef Soup that I absolutely loved! This brought back good memories of eating out there with my Dad who passed away 2 years ago next month. Food is such a huge part of our life and creates memories of times we share it with family and friends.

    This sounds good and I’m pinning it to try!! Thank You!!

    • Food really is a common connection to stories and people – even better when a dish comes together quickly, yet it’s so comforting and tasty! Enjoy your upcoming weekend Kim!

  3. This sounds wonderful, Deb, definitely something to add to my list of favorite quick soups. I grew up eating a Fried Cabbage skillet supper that reminds me of this … 1/2 lb pork sausage, an onion, a chopped cabbage, a cup of rice, a can of tomato paste, plus enough water to cook the rice. One of the first things I learned to cook that required actual frying (as opposed to grilled cheese sandwiches and scrambled eggs). The original recipe was in the Oakland Tribune evening paper, title Emily’s 88 Cent Dinner: I still have the clipping.

    • i love this story Victoria – memories of food is what it’s all about for me! xo

      • Juli Fountain

        Victoria! We have hunted and hunted for Emily’s 88 Cent Dinner. My husband grew up on it and he and his 3 brothers remember it well….except, of course, the recipe…they were kids. Would you be able to share the clipping? We would LOVE to be able to share it with the family!

  4. I love this piece Debra! I too love Anne’s work. Her books have allowed me to see and love myself in a whole new light. Thanks for sharing your thoughts with us. I hope you are well my friend. Sherron

    • thank you Sherron ~ Anne Lamott is a real inspiration for me; so much of what she writes applies to whatever it is that seems to be happening at that moment. Happy New Year to you and your family – may this be your year of ‘Joy Rising!’ xo

  5. I’ve cleaned up all of our Christmas decorations, put away all of the cards and even tucked my snow globe back into it’s box and stored it in the basement. For some reason this year the decorations just made me fill boxed in and it was nice to clean them all up. We haven’t had any snow here yet but I’m still embracing my yoga pants and comfy sweaters. We’re all craving soup now and I’m adding this to my “to make” list

    • Yay Angie – embrace the yoga pants girl! My cards are finally off the mantel but the snow globe still sits on the table . . . of course it’s a frozen tundra outside. i do hope you enjoy the soup – it really is a favorite around here. happy weekend!

  6. Happy New Year!
    I have been wearing stretchy pants lately because I’d rather not force myself into jeans, nor do I want to be made to feel like I’ve eaten one too many (or 20 too many) Christmas cookies. So stretchy pants it is, and back to my normal gym schedule. I’ll face the jeans in a month or so when my waistline has stopped expanding 😉

    Love the idea of cabbage roll soup because I LOVE cabbage rolls, but living alone, it kinda seems like a bit ridiculous to go to all that trouble of making the rolls just for me. This soup is the answer! Plus it’s minus a million out, so perfect soup weather.

    • Happy New Year to you as well Janice! Cabbage rolls are a BIG favorite here as well and with just the two of us, well . . . ‘ain’t nobody got time for that business!’ Soup for everyone! xo

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